How to be a real LEGAL WIFE

Follow my blog with Bloglovin

 

A few months ago, I was completely disappointed by the fact that my favorite show, “Got To Believe” was about to end. It didn’t help that another overrated issue was to be the main plot of the new show to air after the G2B, which is Infidelity.

I hated the concept, the story and I couldn’t stand seeing another marriage crumble to pieces because of temptation and cheating. It has always been a tough issue for me to bear and I admit that I am very sensitive to this subject.

What’s eating me more is how a lot of people acknowledge this as normal and as common as being in a relationship itself. More and more come forward and admit openly that they have been cheated on by their husbands or that they know of someone who’s been cheated on. The list just goes on. Thus the sudden interest of people and movie/tv producers in seeing/making movies and shows that revolve around this crazy, hot topic!

I’ve seen most of the local, mistress movies and now, I can’t help but see how “The Legal Wife” ends. I was intrigued, though mostly outraged by each episode, but I still couldn’t get myself to stop watching. I lost interest for a while, but I managed to endure watching it again when the cheating started. After which I had to release tension by posting hate posts on facebook and found how many feel the same way.

Today, I met another fan of the show in one of the parents of our students and she shared a valuable lesson that made me think twice about my own beliefs regarding the issue. She told me that younger and much older wives have different perspectives with regards to the issue of a cheating husband having a child with the mistress. I was quick to dismiss my own opinion and told her that I would definitely just walk away if that happens to me, but she told me otherwise. She said that women her age have much more fierceness in them which distinguishes them from their younger counterparts. She firmly advised me to set aside emotions and let the mind do the talking (that sounded funny but you get what I mean, right?). That means that you have to be firm enough to grab hold of your husband and keep him on a tighter leash. You must not let them have the satisfaction of being together by running away. She told me this with conviction in her eyes. I could see through her, she was serious about it.

She also told me that I wouldn’t know, not unless I get married and have kids too. I asked her how could someone live seeing the face of his cheating husband every waking day of her life? Should they try to patch things up or bring everything back to the way they used to be? She answered me by saying that things will never be the same again for the couple, but the wife should learn how to fight for her rights and their marriage even though it hurts to stay with the j*rk. That’s where mind over matter comes in. Again, the wife should learn to set aside her emotions. As for me, it sounds a whole lot like being a rock. Firm and emotionless.

It must have been tough for Jinky Pacquiao, Manny’s admirable wife to go through it herself. It’s probably the one and only thing I admire her for. I guess she knew her rights as the wife and she didn’t want her family to fall apart in a single blow. After all, she’s the legal wife of a boxing champion. She’s one tough mama and besides, her family wouldn’t be where it is now if it wasn’t for her.

As for me, I don’t believe in second chances when it comes to cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I guess it also boils down to my trust issues. I could never ever stand being with someone who already lost my trust. Just saying.

 

Advertisements

First roll

Technically, this is the 4th roll I brought over at a photo developing store, the 3rd one scanned at a Mitsubishi Photo Imaging center and the 1st using my Canon FTB QL!

I used a film I got from the same store where I had it scanned, a Fujicolor 200. Unfortunately though, out of the 36 shots, I only got 21 (thinking that I’m using one with 24 exposures only), 4 of which were test shots (which I thought were taken by an equally excited supernatural entity—paranoid much?) I took as advised by tutorials online/manual itself. 2 were underexposed, but I’m glad I still got some good shots. Not bad for my first try, especially since I failed to use the light meter for the first few ones I took.

 72810005

72810007

72810008

I used a slow shutter speed here since it was a bit breezy, to show a bit of motion

72810009

our basil plants

72810010

This one’s my favorite because of the composition. I still didn’t know how to use the light meter and used a very high ISO for this photo. Good thing it didn’t turn out too overexposed!

72810020

72810019

72810016

72810011

72810021

72810012

72810015

72810013

Here are some of the underexposed photos I took indoors.

72810002

One of the 4 test shots i took at the beginning

72810006

72810017

72810018

There you have it. It’s not much, but since I underestimated myself too much, I didn’t  quite expect these to come out as such. Of course, I was hoping I used the settings correctly, but I didn’t really think I’d get some good ones.

These photos came out grainy. I’m not sure if it’s the film/incorrect ISO usage or the lens itself, but if it’s the latter, I’d have to shell out a lot for the CLA-ing! Please let it be the film! Please!

TIPS:

  • If you don’t have this film indicator at the back of your camera, try sticking a label instead so you won’t forget what film you’re using and as for my case, how many exposures your film has. (i think i got this from Kai Wong of DigitalRev TV)
  • Keep your hands steady!
  • Don’t forget the SUNNY 16 rule!

My New Baby

I seriously still can’t believe I now own a very vintage yet still very beautiful and working, single lens reflex film cameraaaaaaa!!!! A few months back, I never would have thought I’d get one this early! I remember joining this film photography group on facebook late last year and the moderator warmly welcomed me and offered to help me find what I want. Very amateur that I am in this craft (I only got to play with dslrs and lomo cameras in the past) and still unemployed, I politely told him of my intentions in joining the group and that is only to scout for prospective cameras. I had really no plans yet of getting one because I was too broke. I could only drool over, dream and window-shop for a really nice camera. I never had a chance to look around after that again.

Fast forward to the days before I got my salary last Saturday, I began looking for one after so long, knowing that I could afford cameras with a price ranging from Php2,500-Php3,000. The first one I saw was a Minolta XG-M and it was on OLX. It was really, really, really nice. I looked up the specs, sample photos, reviews online and I have decided to get it that day since the seller was only free on weekends! Sakto because it was a Saturday and I was about to get off from work! Unfortunately, the seller cannot schedule a meet up that day because apparently she was busy.  Disappointed, I told her that I’ll be texting her again (but deep inside I didn’t want to get it anymore since I felt that she wasn’t very enthusiastic about having a buyer so soon). So I slept through half the night and woke up an hour and a half past midnight. Still thinking about the camera, I searched for more sample photos on instagram and fell even more in love with it. At 3 am, I was sure that I’m going to get it as soon as the seller was available. I couldn’t contain my excitement for daybreak just so I could send the seller a message again! At 6:33am, I sent her a text bargaining on a time and day we could meet up. Sadly, there was no reply from her after.

You could just imagine how overly frustrated I got, even cursing her in my mind! Just kidding! I just couldn’t accept the fact that I might not be able to get the camera that I drooled over the past night. I got so easily attached and I felt even more hopeful since the seller was a college student from my alma mater. So when I got home from our family trip to Batangas that day (Sunday), I went online and began searching for another camera on facebook again. It’s true what they say, you can move truly move on from a bad break up when someone new comes along. In my case, I found the second love of my life that night (that was fast! a mere 24 hours after!). It was posted a few hours before I logged on and it was dayuummm sexy! It’s a CANON FTb QL! Well that was just an exaggeration because it wasn’t love at first sight. I still wasn’t over the Minolta heartbreaker and before that, I was really, really hoping to get a Canon AE1-program (my ultimate dream baby and still is), but I still gave it a chance, after all, it wasn’t that bad looking (I had been eyeing vintage slrs with that slab of metal on top). And besides, who am I to say no to this sexy machine? Looking back, I realized I couldn’t be happier that I did because it was truly heaven sent! The seller was very nice and answered all of my questions really well (despite me knowing nothing about it). I downloaded the manual online and searched for reviews and specs and sample photos again. You may call it deja vu except that this time, I wasn’t going to pass the chance, but grab on to it immediately. So I did and before I knew it, I was meeting up with the seller the day after!

I asked my best friend to go to Makati with me to meet up with the seller. It was a very eventful night, it deserves an entry of its own. So, I met up with him and asked him all about the baby and when he took it out, that moment was like when a father/mother sees his/her baby for the first time. It was sooooooo HUGE and HEAVY, it got me even more excited! It was a very magical moment and when I held it in my hands and looked through the viewfinder, I felt like “I have got to own this baby!”. I couldn’t wait to put some more magic into it!

Days after, still, I am amazed by it. Looking at the reviews and feedback of people from all over the makes me giddier by the minute. I like that what most people have to say about it is that it’s a great camera for beginners because it’s completely manual. I got so easily seduced by dslrs because of the photos  I took using those but really, I never learned any of the apertures, iso or shutter speed shizz that you have to when you’re shooting with a film slr or any film camera for that matter. I also like that it’s really big and heavy because it looks so hardcore that way. I also like its quick loading system (thus the QL attached to its name) because it makes it easy to load film inside. I love how you’re not sure of what’s the outcome gonna be like. I love the film advance lever (feels even more vintage-y). I love that it works even without a battery (coz’ it’s not readily available). I love that you really need to know what aperture or ISO/film speed and shutter speed to use and how they work together for every photo you take based on the light conditions of each. It is very complicated and it seems so hard to even get a good picture out of this thing especially since you cannot easily review and delete the bad photos you took and since I am very amateur, so I really need to practice more on it! I love how everything is manual because it would really force you to learn all the basics and your own style of taking photographs manually. I still have a long way to go to reach my dream and become Philippine’s next top photographer (CHOS!), but I’m really happy that I’m shooting one photograph to my dream at a time.

More about my baby soon and hopefully I could include photos from my first roll of film using it!

Image